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Weight loss is an inside job

Want to lose weight? Are you frustrated with not getting the results that you want? The majority of us have had times in our lives that we were unhappy with our bodies. I remember being a teenage girl, hating my body. I have said it before and I will say it again- you cannot hate yourself into a new body. You cannot expect to deprive yourself, work your body to death and come out a changed person.

Transformation is an inside job and when you change how you think about your body, your body changes. I have personally experienced this and have seen many others benefit from a more balanced approach to weight loss. Work with your body, and your body will work with you. If you want to get results that you have never had, you have to be willing to do something that you have never done before (not sure who first said that but they knew the real deal.)

How can you do that? You have to be willing to admit there are things you don't know or need someone to hold you accountable for. It is hard to make real changes alone and unsupported. You have to be willing to admit when you need help or guidance. We are all experts at something but no one is an expert at everything. It can be exhausting weeding through the claims, opinions and misinformation out there.

The reality is that deciphering what is accurate and scientifically based is a necessary headache for you to endure. You don't want to be putting your body through unnecessary stress for a weight loss idea or product that doesn't do what it claims to do. If it doesn't even do the job what is the point? Not to mention the potential side effects. Stress is the sneakiest and deadliest natural disaster there is in the human body. People seem to be finally catching on to this and making the lifestyle changes that are needed. It is refreshing to see people prioritizing physical and mental health. Mental health matters a lot when it comes to health.

I am sorry to say it but not every business or person has your well being in mind. Some may just not be qualified to speak about health in an advisory way in the first place. Weightloss and health should be deeply personal and customized.

We all have our own experience when it comes to health and wellness. Just because something works for Becky doesn’t mean it will work for you. Genetics, body composition, age, sex, hormones, and gender are all factors as well. New habit change should be tailored to the person and not the other way around.

It is an experiential journey to get there. You have to get to know your individual body, find what works for you and continue to do it to maintain. That will entail that you take the time to get to know yourself, your body and your individual needs. It means being mindful and aware of what you put into your body and how you move it.

The fact of the matter is your body needs your attention, love, and care to figure it out. Maybe you are not willing to put in the time, effort and research necessary to implement the correct weight loss plan. It is very possible that you need someone to keep you on track and hold you accountable.

If that is the case for you, make sure to find a highly reliable, honest and good friend who has the same goals as you do. You can write down your goals together, and lovingly call each other out when needed. Before anything else, you need to know where you are starting. If you are truly committed to changing your body, you will want to know where you are starting.

You could measure by weight, clothing sizes, body fat percentage and, or measurement. Those are all easy and common ways to keep track of progress. I would suggest doing all of them so you have a larger picture in mind. Weight will fluctuate and it is counterproductive and sometimes harmful to weight yourself everyday.

Don't get too caught up on numbers. Be in it for the long haul, it is not a quick fix. If it is a real and sustainable diet and movement regimen it will take some time to see noticeable results. You could weigh yourself every week on the same day and at approximately the same of day. Don't torture yourself to reach an unrealistic number in an unreasonable amount of time.

Your body has most likely been beaten down on enough as it is. Don’t trust any random person to give you advice on what’s right for your body. Let’s have a bit more compassion and care with ourselves. Let’s challenge ourselves to not take the easy way out and use harmful substances in order to get results. Let’s take a deep breathe and realize real change will require some time. That old expression about enjoying the process might just hold true.

You may come to find that you can love yourself during that transformation. It becomes less about the results and more about the energy your new lifestyle brings. At the risk of being oh so cliche', it is not about the destination. If you live your life waiting for the next result, you will live a life of unhappiness. It is what you are doing and who you are being everyday that will move you to the result you want.

Who we are today is a result of the days behind you. I will warn you it won’t always come easily. Temptation will arise to believe in the hype of the next dietary fad or supplement. You will most likely self sabotage your own achievement. When this happens, I challenge you to take a breathe and really think. Think about a time where you took the easy way out. Did it last? How did it make you feel? How did it turn out? There is a better way and one that actually works. It requires that you be consistent, disciplined, and hold yourself accountable to follow through.

Don't expect a return on and investment you never made. You have to be committed and taking the actions every day, not just when you feel like it. I know that may not be what you want to hear but it is the truth. Most of us feel guilty about getting something we don’t feel we worked for it. It’s a human condition.

Point being we want to work for and deserve our accomplishments. At the very least on our deepest level we want to get what we actually earn. When you start doing the things you know intuitively are good for you, you become lighter. Lighter physically, mentally and spiritually. The mind and body are connected. Your thoughts and actions are connected.

Change the conversations you have in your head about yourself. If it is not bringing you to happiness or achievement toss it for good. Think less, and do more. Let yourself be pulled to what feels naturally right for you. Reject the shiny new object. Always honor yourself. You deserve to be your best self but not at the cost to your health. Health is wealth and a worthy investment to make.

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