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Being transparent by definition means allowing light to pass through so an object behind can be distinctly seen. I love this way of looking at it.

My perspective on this with people is if you allow light in, the light being your knowledge and self-awareness, you can be seen and therefore understood. If you stay in the dark, you will be misunderstood.

It is knowing who you are and being accepting of it. Not allowing fear, doubt or judgment to keep you in the shadows.

Can you think of a time in life where you hid who you were? Told a white lie? Left out important details about yourself? We have all done it at some point but why?

I believe it all comes down to fear of judgment or rejection. Not being confident that you will be accepted for who you are.

It’s especially difficult in this era of picture-perfect social feeds to admit we have things we could work on. This is where being transparent and true to yourself is crucial.

Sometimes we can get so clouded by all the fluff around us that we forget to take a look at our own reflection. It’s so important to live authentically because after pretending for so long, you can even forget who you actually are.

It’s not about looking a certain away, appearing to have things or showing off. It’s about having real purpose and happiness in life. It’s about healthy relationships with yourself and others.

That is what actually brings joy and satisfaction. All the superficial clout and fake friends can’t bring you happiness. This is why I love what I do. I get to be apart of that human transformation.

It’s not about fixing someone, it is about getting back to your actual self. In Psychology, the term is self-actualization. Essentially, being your true self. Fearlessly pursuing the life you want and doing what it takes.

How? The first step is asking yourself the questions. Who I am? What do I really want? Have I been living and speaking my truth? Be willing and open to the possibility that you have been holding yourself back.

Here are 3 ways you can start being more transparent with yourself and others and, live a more authentic life.

1.) Hire a professional. We all have our own unique strengths and weaknesses. Nobody has mastered everything, and that is why having an expert can be beneficial.

Everyone can benefit from a professional who can offer an objective perspective and knowledge we don’t have ourselves. I sought out a psychologist to help me work through things I was not able to release.

There are so many resources available to guide you with personal development. Make sure you do research and the qualifications and methods are right for what you want to achieve.

Truth is, people often know what they need to do but need someone who will hold them accountable and keep them motivated to do it.

2.) Self-study. Before I become certified as a Health and Life Coach, I was studying personal development on my own.

I read as many books as I could find, researched online, listened to podcasts, watched YouTube, and downloaded as many personal development apps as I could find.

All the seemingly small actions can really make a difference when it comes to personal growth. If you are someone who is self-disciplined and can keep yourself motivated this a great option for you.

3.) Start a journal. Journaling can give you clarity. It’s a great tool because you can look back and see how far you’ve come. I write about everything from my experiences, feelings, goals, and aspirations.

Writing something down is a way to release (let things go) that may be holding you back. It is a small commitment that may be a great place to start for you. Write it down and enjoy the clarity you will feel.

I hope this article helps you gain some perspective about yourself and the direction you want to go in. We all are in different seasons of life and it is important to be able to look at ourselves and be open to growing as a person.

Life happens for those who are willing to open doors, try new things, and experience everything differently. You could climb a mountain or you can face the mirror, both will require you to challenge yourself and level up.

Along the way, be sure to follow your gut, listen to your heart, and keep your head on straight.

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