Self-care is a trendy topic of discussion these days. What does it mean? In my world, it means taking loving action for oneself. Showing up for yourself, as you do for others.
Self-care is different for everyone. The perfect self-care day for me is getting a sweat in, doing yoga, reading, writing, and drinking tea while in a bubble bath. I rarely could make a day of it but, you know, a mama can dream.
It may look completely different for you. It’s all about doing things you love. It could be anything. Walking, hiking, singing, dancing, cooking, listening to music, or even watching Netflix if that is what you will make you happy.
Anything that is good for your soul and relaxes you. It doesn’t have to be complicated, and it should not be stressful. Stress defeats the whole purpose.
Not sure how to love yourself? Make a list of things you enjoy doing or have always wanted to do. Then make a commitment to do something every day on your list, even if it is for a short time. Set a reminder on your phone every day, or take time when you get it.
Please do it, the laundry and dishes can wait. If you only have 5 minutes, take those 5 minutes. Moms, Dads this could be during nap or quiet time. If you are shaking your head or laughing at me, I get it. You just have to make time.
I have been a stay at home mom, single mom, work from home mom, and a working mom. I do understand the challenges and struggles that come with all of those unique situations. This is exactly why it is so very important to make your health a priority.
If you must, go ticktock on it and lock yourself in the bathroom. Make sure your kids are in a safe place obviously but besides that, they will be okay for a couple of minutes. Put yourself in time out when you need it.
For the love of little Peter, stop feeling guilty about being a person. Being a parent does not mean you can’t do things for yourself. Being a parent does not mean your life is over. Being a parent does not mean that everything has to be about your children.
Remember that one day they will go on to live their own lives. I’m not trying to scare you but you should have a life of your own too. Don’t lose yourself completely in the process of raising them. It took me a while to understand this. You are an individual, different, and separate from your beautiful offspring.
Nobody is going to think less of you for wanting time away from those exhausting little guys and gals. It is okay to need time away or alone. It is normal and healthy. Set an example for your children about how they should treat themselves.
Take time for you. MAKE IT HAPPEN! You will be happier, more yourself, and enjoy the time with your family more. To be able to show up for the people you love, you have to show up for yourself. This is not a one and done action. Do it whenever it is possible or needed.
This is not exclusive to parents but I think we might just need to be reminded more. There is so much judgment, stigmas, and tbh utter BS surrounding parents. Take an effing break and know that you more than deserve it.
This goes for everyone. Life is meant to be enjoyed. Work is important but it is not everything. Enjoying life and having a purpose is equally important. If you are super savvy your work will be somthing you love. Time is expensive. Don’t give it away to just anything or anyone.
Spend some time on yourself. You wouldn’t bat an eyelash to help a friend, so why are you so reluctant to do something for YOU? You make your schedule. You decide what your priorities are and you are in control over your life.
Take your time back. Self care is not selfish. It will enhance every area of life and lead to a happier, more fulfilled you. You will be so filled, it will overflow to every person you loves' coffee mugs or sippy cups. Love yourself as much you love everyone else. I love you, now go love you!