Everyone wants to be happy and successful at something during their lifetime. I believe that is a commonality among us. It will look differently depending on the individual. Still, we all want some version of it. So what does being successful mean? What does it look like? How does it feel? These are the questions I’ve been diving into this last year. I will be turning 30 this coming September and I am genuinely excited about it. The best years of my life have only just begun. If you are dreading getting "old" that may be a sign that you are ready for a mindset shift.
My entire life I had this idea of what success looked like. I believed that when I had a six figure income, status, and a big old flashy mansion, only then would I be successful. I will let you in on a secret. Success and happiness are a state of mind. Have you ever heard the expression “wherever you go, there you are.” Same concept. If you are looking for happiness, I hate to break the news but money won't give you that. Money is essential, we need it for everything. What I am saying is that having money doesn't make you successful nor happy. You don’t obtain happiness and success by having something. It’s actually achieved by being someone. Being you. The real you. The you who wakes up living the life that you are meant to live. Unapologetically and boldly being yourself every day you open your eyes. It’s all how you choose to see it. I never thought about how I’d feel when I had any of those things I thought defined success. The more I think about what it is I ACTUALLY want, the more I realize how much I already have. I have a curious soul. I’m writing, helping people and have a loving family. Your dreams most likely look very different than mine. By all means don’t let me shame you out of your dreams. Money and wealth have an important role in life. I’m just not that personally invested in it. I grew up in a family with a lot of money. I know first hand that money does not make you happy. You may have had an entirely different experience than I did. The beauty of life is that we all come from different experiences and points of view. Nobody should ever make you feel bad about what you want in life. That’s actually the whole point of this article. We should be pursuing our own versions of happiness and success. I realized that I was chasing a life I never wanted. Maybe, just maybe, that’s why I never made it there. My heart wasn’t in it. I was convincing myself that is was what I wanted. I thought, somehow, if I reached that level of success that the happiness would come. I realized my inner beliefs about success was holding me back from having the life I truly wanted. What I wanted was to have my own business, to be a writer and to help others love life. That simple. I wanted to live somewhere warm and close to the beach. Not one ounce of me wants to clean a mansion everyday. I guess you could hire a house keeper but that’s not what gets my rocks off. I want a simple life. That’s me. I guess I had never questioned myself before. I had never really thought about what it was I actually wanted. I challenge you to ask yourself what it is that you truly want out of this life. We have one life to live while we are here on earth. One life to love and cherish. What can you do today to step in the direction of true happiness?