Updated: May 29
Think about that for a second. Is the content in your life leading to contentment? The way I think about this is by looking at someone’s social media page. It may have beautiful aesthetics but what about the content?
I am someone who appreciates beauty. The trouble I have is when the aesthetics don’t translate into the content. You can look beautiful, healthy, and successful. That is all well and good, but what does your life really look like? How do you feel on the daily? Are you happy? One day it clicked for me. Like an annoying ad online that brings no value. I realized I wasn’t living authentically. I didn’t want to spend my energy trying to look happy, healthy, or successful. I’d rather spend my time actually being those things. I am not special in that regard. Here is five ways to find your happiness, starting today. 1.) Stop pretending. Admit to yourself if you are not living the life that you want to live. At the end of the day you may be able to fool others but, you cannot fool yourself. If we spent half the time working on ourselves that we spent trying to convince others, we would all be much happier. Health cannot be determined by exterior design. Health and happiness come from within. 2.) Take a step back. It’s difficult to see ourselves when we are in a situation. It takes stepping out of it in order to see it clearly. It’s like being in an abusive relationship. If you are in it deep, you most likely can’t see how wrong that relationship is for you. Emotions often cloud our judgment. We can’t see things differently unless we decide to take a step back to really look. I was able to do this by going offline. I deactivated my social media accounts and started challenging myself. Social media was my kryptonite. That may not be it for you, but there is something you need to step back from. Figure out what that is and take some space for yourself. 3.) Get back to the basics. Take care of yourself. Start reading books, listening to podcasts, practice self-care. Learn about yourself and what you want. Start being happy. Do things that you love, I cannot stress that enough. It is the most important thing in life. Being happy does matter. It could be as simple as taking a bath or drinking a cup of hot tea 4.) Analyze your life. I challenge you to take a look at the content in your life. Dissect every aspect of your current reality. The content of your food. The content of your relationships. The content of your minds. It really does matter. Do you want to look happy or do you want to be happy? Take a mental inventory of what your life is made up of. Be brutally honest with yourself. If you are not where you want to be or you are not happy, commit to making a change. 5.) Embrace change. Adversity, suffering, and pain can shape our lives in positive ways. Why? Because it challenges us to change. It challenges us to see things differently. It takes us out of our comfort zone. It’s the only way to change. We don’t have to be suffering but we do have to be uncomfortable. We do have to admit we are not perfect and make a commitment to work on ourselves. It takes effort and risking failure. It is my opinion that failure is a success in itself. Character is built and lessons are learned. I can assure you the rewards outweigh the risk. Facts, your life is happening right now. Not yesterday, not tomorrow. Reality is that we are all on the clock. We don’t get to choose when that time is up. If that doesn’t get you to question yourself, I don’t know what will. I will keep saying it louder for the people in the back. Why? It is my passion and purpose to help others live their best lives. There are way too many people living unhappily. Don't allow fear, doubt or an illusion to hold you back from your true purpose. Make a decision and take action right away. Create a life worth sharing. Be a person of substance. It’s the only way to live. Stop swimming in the kiddie pool. Seriously, find an ocean, do it quick! Be bold enough to dive into deep waters. You will learn how to swim when you trust yourself enough to try. A shallow, safe existence is not a life. It takes practice and it takes time but you will never regret it.